People say as we grow up, we will start to lose our friends.
They will go one by one; some will have their own family; some will walk to
another journey. What if you and your friends work in the same company? Will the
friendship be different when you meet them in your workplace – especially when
you went away for a period of time? Will a position affects a friendship?
Sometimes, it is a struggle to maintain a friendship and in
the same time when you have to do your responsibility as the one with
authority. This is where friendship can sometime be affected; and this could be
the time when you lose your friends. But how? You still have to ensure things
go in order. Which one to choose? Especially when you are in ministry – God or
friendship?
The ironic thing is that, we all know what need to be done
when things need to be done. We all know decision need to be made. We know all
these in theory and common sense (sometimes). BUT when we are the one which
decision is upon us, or affected by the decision, we feel dissatisfy,
unwilling, and affect our perspective to our friend whom is our leader.
My question is, “Why we reacted like that?” As the one who
receive the consequence of the decision, I think we need to think why the
leader who is our friend needs to make such decision.
Decisions made by us as leader, will really affect the
friendship that we have throughout the years before we become their leader.
What to do? I always try to live a life that pleases God not
man. When I need to make decision, God or friendship, I will choose God as in
the priority of the ministry. If decision made really affect our friendship, I can’t
help, because reaction is on their side which I could not control it, but to
think that God is showing me who can really be my friend. Surprisingly, my
friends now is those who have the same experience as me to the same group of
people.